What to Wear

Weddings: What to Wear

Choosing the ideal outfit for a wedding can be a tricky balance.  For a start, you don’t want to upstage the bride or she’ll claw your eyes out.  The general rule therefore is not to dress top to toe in white/ivory/champagne/cream – whatever you want to call it.  And certainly don’t turn up in a veil.  Another no-no of wedding fashion is the dreaded black.  Now most women fall back on their LBD for events like these but, with a few exceptions, they can look a little bit funereal.  So it’s safer to opt for bright colours and pastels.

Do your research

Something a lot of people forget to do is to find out what colour the bridesmaids will be wearing.  If you turn up in the very same shade, you’ll run the risk of being grouped together with them all day.  If you can’t find out for any reason, go for something patterned.  It’s unlikely that the bridesmaids will show up in the same dress!

Also make sure you are aware of the time and venue of the wedding before hitting the shops.  An evening event will require an altogether dressier approach whereas daytime weddings usually involve a more relaxed style.

Seasonal Choices

Of course, the date of the wedding will play a large part in what you choose to wear.  You don’t want to be freezing your eyelashes off in a mini-dress in the middle of December, nor do you want to be sweating profusely in a thick woolly number in August.  If you’re attending a winter wedding, why not find a smart shift dress and team it with complementary tights and a thick jacket?  The same dress should work in the summer too if you remove the extras and choose instead to take a light shrug for later in the evening.

Footwear can be a bit difficult too so again, do your research.  If the reception is going to be in a floorless marquee, probably best to leave the stilettos at home, opting for a wider heel and fewer embarrassing sinking moments.  If the wedding is a casual affair, you might get away with flip flops that can be kicked off later for dancing, but do check the dress code (or lack thereof) before whacking on your Havaianas.

Hats Off – or On

Weddings and hats go hand in hand.  Try not to choose anything too overbearing or you’ll end up stealing focus (and probably blocking out half of the Bride’s cousins in the pictures).  A simple fascinator is a popular choice and there are plenty available on the high street.  You can even make your own if you’re feeling crafty.

Be Appropriate

This is especially important if you are attending a church wedding.  Remember to keep skirts to an appropriate length especially if you plan on having a knees up to the wedding band and put that cleavage away.  The bride will look daggers at you if half the congregation can’t tear their eyes from your décolletage or the wedding photographer takes more pictures of you, then they do of the happy couple.  Sophisticated and demure are good buzzwords, so bear them in mind.

A Special Day

Bridal Jewelry – a Special Way to Remember a Special Day
Many people spend a lot of money on jewelry for their wedding day only to subsequently put it away in a jewelry box, becoming almost ignored.  This is such a shame when it can be worn to remember and celebrate that special day and all those lovely moments associated with it.

Something Spectacular for Your Wedding Day
Every bride wants to look and feel special on her wedding day.  Of course, the main focus is on the dress but to set off the wedding gown, some really special jewelry will make her look and feel really confident about herself.  It is known that, in most cases, the gown is never worn again but the history doesn’t have to repeat itself in regards to wedding jewelry.  It is up to the individual how often she wears it but on wedding anniversaries it would be a really special way of remembering the occasion and not just the date. After all, everyone else can by a wedding outfit and wear it again, so why not the bride too, well perhaps not the whole thing!

It isn’t necessary to just stick to wearing your wedding jewelry on wedding anniversaries though, you can wear it any time you want; at any intimate meals out with your husband, special occasions such as theatre shows or if you are going on a cruise.

Many brides choose sets of matching jewelry for their big day and having a complete set of necklace, earrings and maybe a matching bracelet would complement any outfit.  Use your wedding jewelry to accessorize more than one outfit.  Think of the eternal “little black dress.”  How stunning would that look with some spectacular jewelry to set it off?  You don’t have to go out and buy something especially for the occasion; just use your wedding jewelry and you have got it made.

Wedding Jewelry is Versatile
Wedding outfits are usually white or cream and the type of jewelry that is worn is generally either pearls, diamonds or crystals.  Any of these would go beautifully with a formal gown.  To wear the treasured wedding jewels on a formal occasion such as this would once again make you feel special and remind you of the day that you took your vows.

Add the Element of Surprise
Next time you and your husband are planning on going out on a formal occasion, get out those wedding jewels, dust them off and wear them with pride, and see if your husband notices.  Men don’t notice these things very often, but if he does, he will be very touched that you want to remember your special day and even if he doesn’t, remind him and he’ll most likely be just as appreciative.

Of course, you will undoubtedly have wedding photographs taken by a professional and experienced wedding photographer and may even have film of everyone dancing to the party band you hired, but there are many memories you could have, however a piece of jewellery is second to none.

Remember that your wedding jewelry shouldn’t be an inexpensive piece of costume jewelry that you choose to ignore; it is a significant reminder of a celebration of your love for one another; use it as such.  Wearing your wedding jewelry is like wearing your heart on your sleeve and re-proclaiming that your love for each other is as strong as it ever was.  Wear your wedding jewelry with pride.

Songwriting a Core Skill

Why is it that it’s the most inopportune moments when a song pops into my head, be it lyrics or a riff, I could be sitting there in a wedding service, or paying for my weekly shopping, either way there is no real way to capture the idea, so I think I can hold it for a while until I do have the opportunity, but inevitably it’s gone by the time I do.  The only way to capture these ideas is to have a recording device with you at all times, not so difficult if you have a reasonably modern mobile phone, but just make sure it’s captured there and then. Don’t worry about looking a fool in front of the cashier, although if you are at a wedding probably best to not sit there humming a tune, other than the songs you are supposed to be singing that is. If it’s a lyrical idea, it’s not so bad as you can generally stop whatever you’re doing and write them down there and then, so make sure that you always carry a pen and paper with you wherever you venture.

More likely you have the age old problem of writers block, this happens not only to musicians but also people writing novels, text books or even posts on blogs, strangely I don’t have this problem writing on the web, but that’s probably because I only log in to write when I have something to stay, whereas when you are in the studio with time ticking away with those pound notes, my mind goes as blank as the next persons.

So what can one do if you have a case of writers block? I often find that not giving up is key, there are many times that my musical cohort Martin has come round for a recording session, we set some drums going, then add a simple bassline, then we start on the keyboards, nothing! Then we get the guitars out, Still nothing! We stop, pour another glass of wine (yeah yeah, I know it’s a bit girly, but it’s cheap!) We try again, then go back to another old song and try the same with that, still nothing, then suddenly, perhaps an hour later, sometimes two or more something just clicks and an idea happens, it could be a riff or lick, sometimes a vocal hook, or it can often be a mistake such as playing the wrong track through the wrong channel, suddenly making a bassline come out through a different instrument a few octaves higher. The thing is somehow we end up with a new idea, so as long as you are enjoying it, there’s no harm in messing about until the idea just comes of its own accord.

Something else I find can work really well is to put some music on in another room and mess around with the treble and bass controls, or graphic equaliser if you still have your old 80’s retro stereo, hearing something like this, somewhat muffled from another room, with the volume down quite low, can make you hear little nuances in the music which you have never noticed before, sometimes something will stand out as you hear new harmonies which you never noticed, this has been the basis for an entire song for me on several occasions.

Remember too that different people write best in different environments, personally I like to be in the studio with the volume at a reasonably low volume, which is of course cranked up from time to time, however an acoustic guitar player is more likely to prefer a quiet room with minimal interruptions. On the other hand a good friend and semi professional musician has his kit at one end of the lounge, so often has his wife tearing round with the hoover, kids playing around his feet and the dog laying on them, but he turns out some great tunes, so it really is a case of working in an environment which suits you.

Talking of bands, I saw a great wedding band play the other day, they were one of the best wedding bands I’ve seen, they did classic wedding songs which everyone loved, the day also started with a cocktail pianist and ended with a disco, if I was going to hire a band for a private function of any kind, for corporate entertainment or needed a wedding band, I would certainly book them.